It was
the last place that I envisioned to be. I found it disgusting watching men and
women, boys and girls walk out there drunk, useless and aimless. It was not
only a place of distraction but a life changer too. Well, it happened that was
my honorable father’s favorite spot. He did not keep it to himself but made me
a part of it. Maybe it was because I was the only child, it may have been
different if I had siblings. Every morning, evening and sometimes afternoons, I
will be found at the drinking spot in our neighborhood. My father just could
not eat anything without an appetizer. According to him, alcohol was the one
thing that boosted his appetite and nothing else. I was surprised my mother
bought into that idea that each time food was ready, I will be sent to get some
tot of local gin or bitters for my father before he could eat. I did this every
day that I wondered what the woman at the bar thought of me. Maybe she thought
I was a drunkard too like those in the neighborhood, maybe too not. Well,
whatever she thought did not matter. What mattered was the struggle I went
through having to smell alcohol like two times every day and seeing how
terrible and disgusting alcohol made people. My father also annoyed me a lot. I
just did not understand why he could only eat after he took alcohol. But who
was I to question what he did?
If you
ask me, I cannot tell you because I cannot remember when I also started taking
alcohol before I could eat any food. All I can remember is, I did not only buy
for my father, but I bought for us. I also started drinking alcohol for appetite.
My father’s case was not that bad. He only got a little drunk when he took
alcohol before eating. The worst he did was talk and talk about things that
none of us found reasonable. When he got tired, he slept it off. My situation was
very different and I have not been able to figure out what made me drink so bad
since age nineteen. I did not have to get food before I drank. I drank morning,
afternoon and evening. When I turned twenty, I joined a group of friends to
train and work as masons in the neighborhood. Before that, I always heard the
saying that masons liked drinking a lot. Well, I always thought it was just one
of those stereotypes but my friends proved me wrong. Each evening after work,
we went to about three different spots to drink and drink till we could drink
no more. They saw it as a form of relaxation after a hard day’s work. But I
seemed to need alcohol instead of just wanting it to eat or relax. I saw how my
friends drank and I drank more. I could not stop at just two or three bottles. I
couldn’t work any longer because no one wanted to work with a drunkard. The
saddest part was, I had no idea what I did, what I said or even how I behaved
when I got drunk. Hearing the terrible things I did always had me swearing to
stay away from alcohol forever. Then I felt angry, lonely and unacceptable. And the only way I could hide from these feelings was to drink again and again.